Comments on: When She Makes More Than He… http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/ Empowering Women Financially Tue, 15 May 2012 18:13:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Adryenn Ashley http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-58 Fri, 07 Dec 2007 05:09:37 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-58 This is a big consideration for women starting relationships later in life. My husband and I ran into this same issue. Earning wise, he had peaked, I was just hitting my stride. It made more sense for him to stay home with our son and take care of the farm and let me bring home the bacon. It really takes a confident guy to handle that kind of role reversal. Thankfully I have one! :)

Love the blog. I’m sending it to all my girls!

]]> By: The 123rd Carnival of Personal Finance (The Boo! editinon) | The Dough Roller http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-23 Sat, 10 Nov 2007 15:22:44 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-23 [...] When She Makes More Than He… (@ Barbara Stanny): “I am submitting a blog post I did in response to Jean Chatsky’s article on women earning more than men.” [...]

]]> By: barbarastanny http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-10 Fri, 26 Oct 2007 23:40:37 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-10 I love the responses generated by this post. Thanks to all for your comments…I really enjoyed reading them.

]]> By: Tam http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-8 Fri, 26 Oct 2007 04:33:10 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-8 This has always been the case in my marriage, that I earn significantly more than my husband. The time of biggest strife was when he decided he needed to go back to school, but realized he couldn’t fund this himself. He didn’t want to ask for “help”, but schooling is necessary for him to contribute in a significant way to our family’s financial picture.

It took a lot of cheerleading on my part to make this okay for him. The focus on the endgame made the decision easier for both of us, to invest some of our savings in his education, so that our financial picture can improve in the long-term.

It does take effort on my part to be inclusive and not weild all the power simply because I contribute more to the family coffers. Our marriage is still a partnership, regardless of incomes.

]]> By: plonkee money http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-7 Mon, 22 Oct 2007 21:20:55 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-7 I think “he” should get over himself

]]> By: Dough Roller Roundup (The Best and Worst Financial Decisions Edition) http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-4 Sun, 07 Oct 2007 20:04:01 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-4 I just linked to your post, “When She Makes More Than He. . . ” at http://www.doughroller.net/2007/10/07/dough-roller-roundup-the-best-and-worst-financial-decisions-edition/
Dough Roller Roundup (The Best and Worst Financial Decisions Edition)

]]> By: Miel http://barbarastannyblog.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-3 Sat, 06 Oct 2007 04:24:27 +0000 http://barbarastanny.wordpress.com/2007/10/02/when-she-makes-more-than-he%e2%80%a6/#comment-3 Hi Barbara,

I just came to check out your blog after the comment you left on http://www.dinksfinance.com

Great blog and great posting subject! We DINKs have certainly faced this as an issue, but all and all it hasn’t been so hard to deal with. As readers of our blog would know, James is currently in his third year of grad school working towards his Ph.D. While I’ve been the bread winner for the last three years, we recently upped the ante with my recent assignment to a job in Afghanistan.

Now I’m making a significant amount more than I was and giving money to James for living expenses rather than just paying for household items. As you can imagine, it feels a bit different to be on an allowance of sorts rather than just having things taken care of.

We’ve treaded lightly around this and James has actually been far more supportive then most men in his situation.

In the long run we figure that it is a give and take. James made more initially and took care of a larger percentage of household items, now I take on more financial responsibility. Later we never know.

In terms of feeling resentful, I think that might be the case if there wasn’t the potential or drive. In our case James is working hard towards his Ph.D. and I have all confidence that he will regain his earning potential after he is back in the job market.

One last note that I find of interest, many of my girlfriends joke that they would love to find a sugar mama like myself. I find it interesting, as they would likely have as hard of a time being supported by a man as James does relying on me. Just food for thought.

Again, great post!

Miel

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